This Sunday, 30 August, is National Grief Awareness Day.  

Throughout August, we are highlighting the importance of supporting children and young people through grief by sharing Jonathon’s story, and the difference the Department of Veterans’ Affairs (DVA) Education Scheme made in helping music become part of his support plan.

Children express grief in many ways — through conversation, creative activities, play, music or quiet reflection. For Jonathon, music became an essential part of his grief support during one of the most difficult periods of his life. This therapeutic outlet grew into a lasting passion.

After the passing of his father, Paul Nicholas, who served as a Military Police Officer in the Australian Army for 27 years, Jonathon faced the challenge of navigating grief at a critical stage of his development. Like many young people experiencing the loss of a parent, he needed time, understanding and support to process what had happened.

“When I didn’t feel like speaking, I found my voice through music,” Jonathon said.

Music became more than a creative hobby. It gave Jonathon a way to express himself, connect with others and find purpose and belonging. The flexible assistance he received through the DVA Education Scheme has helped Jonathon to develop his musical abilities while building confidence and resilience. What began as a coping strategy for grief became something he genuinely loved.

Jonathon’s mum, Kylie, who is also a Veteran and a current serving member of the Australian Army Reserves with 38 years of service, said:

“Music has provided a space where he can express himself, build confidence and find connection. The tuition support provided by the DVA Education Scheme has not only helped Jonathon develop his skills but has also given him a sense of stability and encouragement during a very difficult period in his life. I wanted to highlight the positive difference the Education Scheme has made for Jonathon and acknowledge the value it brings to children of veterans who face significant hardship. The support has helped Jonathon continue pursuing something he loves and, for that, I am deeply grateful.”

Stories like Jonathon’s show that supporting people through hardship is not always about finding the right words. Sometimes it means recognising what helps a child express and process grief, then providing practical support to keep them connected to it. For Jonathon, the DVA Education Scheme helped music grow from part of his treatment plan into a source of comfort, confidence, joy and ambition.

Today, Jonathon’s passion for music continues to grow. He has started his own band, Encore, and is performing on Canberra’s local music scene.

Grief can affect children in many different ways. It may follow the loss of a loved one, family separation, major life changes or other challenging experiences.

For children in veteran families, grief can sometimes occur alongside other transitions and changes, making support and connection especially important. The Agency's guidance on supporting children through grief emphasises that every child grieves differently and that safe relationships, consistent support and opportunities to express emotions can help children navigate loss and change.

If you are supporting a child through grief more information about what grief can look like in children, how you can help, and when to seek additional support is available on the Agency website.